Is It Love Or Lust?

When you’re having fun chatting to friendly and flirty new friends, on the mobile dating site You’vePulled, it’s super easy to get caught up in the excitement of making instant connections.
Once you ‘click’ with someone you fancy you may be surprised by how quickly your interactions progress online. Sending a cheeky wink, engaging in flirtatious banter and reciprocal personal emails, and making first date plans can take no time at all!
Whilst you’re thrilled at the prospect of hooking up with the hot guy or girl that you’re into in a big way, you may not have considered what’s driving the connection.
Is it genuine romantic feelings (that could blossom into love) that you’re experiencing? Or is it lust for NSA carnal pleasure and gratification?

What’s On Your Mind?

Because love and lust activate similar neural pathways in the brain, it can be difficult to discern which state you’re in. For dating success, it’s vital that you’re honest with yourself about what you’re looking for, in terms of an emotional connection, intimacy and sex.
If you’re chatting with new people on You’vePulled to fill a void and to expand your social life, you may be quite happy to keep communication strictly platonic and online.
If you’re craving passion and a NSA rendezvous with a sexy stranger, dating exclusively and falling in love is probably the last thing that you plan to do.
However, if you long for companionship that grows naturally over time and you’re interested in exploring the dating scene, love is likely to be your primary focus, when you’re checking out the member profiles on You’vePulled.
Having an open-minded approach allows you to explore multiple options, and to decide what you want to do with them. If you don’t want to gain a reputation for being a player, it’s always best to take your time before you dive into any type of romantic or sexually charged experience with someone new. Let the other person know what you’re hoping for from the connection, and where you draw the line.

It’s Purely Lust

Lust is an intense attraction and a desire to get to know someone sexually. When you’re exchanging flirty messages with lots of hot singles, on a safe, secure and discreet dating platform, it’s easy to get carried away and to have lustful thoughts. As your hormones are on fire, you may not be thinking with your brain, and you could make hasty decisions that you later regret.
If you’re looking for casual connections, and plenty of steamy sex, you’re probably lost in lust.
You’re likely to:
• Love bomb the object of your affection
• Feel intensely driven to send explicit messages
• Want to exchange naughty photos
• Dream about tearing your POI’s clothes off
• Desire to hook up on a date that promises sexual gratification
For you, it’s probably unlikely that you will want the sexy fling to turn into something more.

It Could Be Love

Love is a complex emotion that can involve friendship, attraction, passion, chemistry, lust, and a whole lot more. You can fall for someone at first sight, or take forever to realise that they’re the One for you.
You can also love someone you’re not sexually attracted to, and be sexually compatible with someone for whom you have no love feelings. And you can be deeply head over heels or completely infatuated.
Genuine love is something that creeps up on you, when you least expect it. When you feel like your world has been transformed by your POI, it’s probably love that you’re sensing. When this happens you want to spend very moment with this person, lashing attention on them. During the attraction phase, you feel energised and can easily go without eating or sleeping. As the bond deepens, you form a loving attachment that involves affection, trust, and acceptance of each other.

It’s love when:
• Every thought you have involves your POI
• You want to be close to them all the time.
• Butterflies dance in your stomach
• You’re not sleeping or eating well

Instead of trying to define the connection that you’re establishing with someone that you’re chatting to on You’vePulled, relax and enjoy the experience. There’s no rush to give what you’re feeling a label, and to put it in a ‘love’ or ‘lust’ box. Allow things to unfold naturally and see what develops. You could find that the states of love and lust fluctuate before you’re ready to give it all you’ve got. Enjoying the flirting experience should help you identify which of the two intimacy options most appeals to you.

Dating Mobile Dating Phone Chat

Chat With Singles With You’ve Pulled!

A young couple having a conversation on a bench in the street

There are many ways to meet singles with You’ve Pulled, try one of them today!

Text Chat
You’ve Pulled brings you a great text chat service for singles in the UK. It’s a fast and easy to use SMS mobile contact, dating and chat service that you can enjoy direct on your mobile. Once you have signed up we start sending you matching profiles of people within your area. Text dating has opened up a whole new world for singles who want to contact, chat and flirt with like-minded people. In no time at all you’ll make new friends and find matches.

Just text the word PULL to 89398 – We’ll then send you a text asking your age plus the age of the people you want to chat with, along with some additional information such as your post code. At this stage all messages are free. Once you get started, there is a minimum charge of £1.50 for 5 texts sent and received. Standard network charges apply.

Phone Chat
You’ve Pulled brings you the chance to chat and meet singles from all around the UK on your phone on the UK’s largest and best chatline service. Our service runs 24 hours a day all year long and costs are from only 13p per minute plus your phone company’s access charge.
Remember if you’re calling us from your mobile to always use our shortcode as it’s just 25p per minute with NO hidden extras!

Give us a call and you’ll find hundreds of people chatting right now from all over the UK. The best thing about our service is we DO NOT USE OPERATORS so whoever you talk to you can be guaranteed that they are real and genuine – just like you. It’s the perfect place to indulge in some casual chat, phone fun, flirting and dating on the line with like-minded single girls and guys from all parts of the country.

With live 1-2-1 chat, 100% genuine callers, a cheaper credit card option, and the opportunity to record your own introduction, it’s a great way to get to know local singles.


Mobile Dating

Mobile dating with You’ve Pulled couldn’t be more fun. Simply join for free and start dating and meeting up with some of our lovely singles from all over the UK.

Once you’ve joined we have some great features designed to get you that all important first date – join for free on your mobile and start dating with singles near you now. There is so much to see and do on You’ve Pulled that the only way to really enjoy it is by signing up now.

Unlike other dating sites, we can’t guarantee you’ll find love but you’ll have fun trying on You’ve Pulled!

Dating In London

8 Places To Meet Singles In London

Top 8 places to meet singles in London!

Looking for somewhere new to meet other single people in London? Why not try these top 8 places!

1. Steam and Rye
Oozing 1940s Hollywood glamour fused with influences from the Wild West, you’ll be transported back in time as you walk through the door.
If you’re looking for a fabulous evening that includes dinner, drink and dancing in one dazzling location, with DJs, live bands, dancers and the UK’s only mechanical bull, then Steam and Rye makes for an exhilarating night out!
With a host of celebrity fans regularly attending the very eclectic venue, this is somewhere you will definitely want to be seen!
147 Leadenhall Street, London, EC3V 4QT

2. The Book Club
Located in a former Victorian warehouse in the popular area of Shoreditch, during the day The Book Club functions as a homely café serving great coffee and snacks but by night it transforms to incorporate a relaxed lounge area upstairs whilst downstairs hosts hugely popular club nights.
There are a number of events organised throughout the week, including informative talks, life drawing, lunchtime discos, video game nights, live bands and well known DJs.
So whether you want to grab some mouth-watering pancakes for breakfast, sip some afternoon cocktails or have a memorable night out, The Book Club is sure to have plenty of appealing activities and events to entice you there.
100-106, Leonard St, London, EC2A 4XS

3. The Old Queens Head
Hosting an eclectic variety of events including live music, socials, parties, quiz nights, live comedy and plays, alongside a designated room for karaoke; the Old Queens Head certainly accommodates everyone.
Choose from a great range of ales, wines and cocktails or order some pub grub from their menu. The kitchen is currently run by pop up Lucky Chip, serving a selection of delicious burgers, sides and snacks throughout the week including traditional roasts on Sundays.
The Old Queens Head, 44 Essex Rd, Islington, London, N1 8LN

4. Hot Tub Cinema
Prearranged at numerous locations across London, Hot Tub Cinema will undeniably give you a night out to remember.
Showing a diverse assortment of movies from old school classics to more modern favourites, there is sure to be something to entice you.
Hot Tub speed dating events have also been organised so if this is something you would like to try then keep your eyes peeled.
Or if you don’t fancy getting your kit off, check out Pillow Cinema, where the hot tubs are replaced with giant beanbags and blankets – also held in several locations across the city.
Various Locations

5. Bounce
Launched in 2012 and located on the exact site where the game of Ping Pong was invented, Bounce combines the century old game with delicious food and an extensive cocktail menu.
With 17 bespoke ping pong tables, including both the London 2012 Olympic final table and the 2012 World Championship final table, raised restaurant seating for up to 95 diners and cocktail bar, Bounce has established itself as the largest social ping pong club.
Their “Balls to Dating” singles nights are packed full of fun and games for dating with a difference.
121 Holborn, London, EC1N 2TD

6. Tinseltown
This modern interpretation of an American Diner boasts a number of restaurants all over the city, many of which are open until the early hours. Whether you fancy a burger, waffles, or want to try one (or two!) of their marvellous selection of milkshakes, they can cater for your cravings!
If you’re looking for fast food with a twist then pop along for a spot of lunch, dinner or a late night snack or even grab something to take away – it’s all made fresh to order.
Various Locations

7. Pond
You can find Pond nestled down a hidden track in a grand Victorian warehouse in the centre of Dalston. Presenting an exciting selection of Hawaiian food, it offers something very different.
Hawaiian cooking has developed enormously through the years and has progressed into a new, enticing style of food. Focusing on tantalising flavours and attractive presentation, Pond is head and shoulders above the rest and certainly worth a try.
It also plays host to “Happy Endings Dessert Nights” for which diners can pre book and are able to enjoy a 5 course menu of – you guessed it – desserts!
Unit G2, Stamford Works, 3 Gillett Street, Dalston, East London, N16 8JH

8. Museums
Evening events are held at the Victoria and Albert and Natural History Museums on the last Friday of every month and the Science Museum holds its after hours events on the last Wednesday of every month.
All Late events are free entry but tickets must be purchased for exhibitions. With live performances, films, installations, debates, special guests, DJs, Silent Disco and workshops, most with food and drink available, these are nights you’ll definitely want to be first in line for!
Events run from generally from 18:30-22:00 and are on a first come first served basis so make sure you get there early!
Cromwell Road, London, SW7 2RL

Register for free with You’ve Pulled today to find other singles in London and check out one of the places above!