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What Not to Say on a First Date

Last month we gave you some helpful ‘first date conversation tips’ so you’d never be stuck for something to say on a first date. However, what happens when nerves get the better of you and you let your tongue runs away with itself, perhaps having too much to say? You end up revealing too much and scaring your date off before you’ve even reached the main course that’s what! So to help make sure you keep the conversation on track here’s what not to say on a first date.

Bad mouthing your ex – This really is a no brainer but on a first date you really shouldn’t be talking about your ex. Not only is it a huge turn off but it could also suggest that you’re not quite over your previous relationship!

Financial problems- This is way too much information for a first date not to mention a major turn off. Discussing your credit card problems or your low salary is not appropriate first date chit chat. And whatever you do don’t order the most expensive thing on the menu and expect your date to pay!

You want kids and marriage ASAP – Start talking about marriage and kids on a first date and you’re only going to send off one signal – desperate! Harsh but true. Marriage and kids is something that most people see in their future but don’t get ahead of yourself and save that conversation for when things are a little more serious.

“I love you” – This one speaks for itself! Sure someone people fall in love quickly, but on a first date? If you don’t want to scare your date off completely save these three little words for a lot further down the line.

Insecurities –Sure, we all have insecurities, we’re only human after all. However, talking about them will only make you feel worse about yourself not to mention bring the mood of the date down. As bad as it sounds your date isn’t there to be your agony aunt. They’re there to find out what’s great about you!

“Can I take your picture?” – Unless you want to send your date running in the opposite direction do not say this! You might want to show your date off to your friends but this will just come across a little, well, stalker’ish. Plus, you can always see their photo on You’ve Pulled.

 

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Need help starting a conversation?

So you’ve finally plucked up the courage to take your cyber romance offline and see if you can stand the test of real chemistry. Meeting someone for the first time can seem daunting, but it needn’t be. Read on to find out our top conversation starters which are guaranteed to keep the conversation flowing!

Breaking the ice –Talk about your day, talk about the weather, talk about your journey to meet your date. Although these topics may seem rather mundane they are perfect for breaking the ice. They also give you a great opportunity to suss out those all-important first impressions.

Current Affairs – What’s going on in the news? Are there any TV programmes that you are particularly into? Or what about a bit of celebrity gossip? Everyone has their own opinions on current affairs, popular culture and TV shows so it’s a great starting point and a great stepping stone to lead conversation elsewhere.

Family – Talking about each other’s families is a fairly safe and easy topic. It invites your date into your world and allows you to open up a little more.

Work –What you do, how you got into it, the good the bad. For most people work is a big part of their life so there should be plenty to talk about. Be warned though, if they hate their job you may need to steer the conversation on to something else. Perhaps…

Winning Big – What would you do if you won the lottery? Everyone loves this question because you can really let yourself get carried away and create your dream life; a pretty good insight into one another’s desires.

Films – A person’s taste in films can say a lot about their character. It’s also a great way to see if you have anything in common.

Dream Dinner Party – Ask your date who they’d invite – dead or alive – to their dream dinner party. Another great question which allows you both to get day dreamy and also gives you a good idea of the types of people you are.

Phobias – Finding out about your date’s phobias is a great way to create a bond between the two of you as it shows your vulnerable side. It can also be a great way to triggers some funny anecdotes. Plus, if one of you is scared of spiders and the other doesn’t mind catching them, well then you could be a match made in heaven!

Desert Island – Another open ended question and one that can easily lead you onto other conversations is ‘what three items would you take to a desert island’. It’s a fun way to find out what is important to your date.

People Watch – People watching is great fun and it gives you plenty to talk about. Make up stories about the other people for example, why they might be there or what their story is. The more imaginative the better and the more likely it is that you’ll get your date laughing!

Sounds so easy doesn’t it? Why not put these tips to good use next time you go on a first date and that way, you can spend less time stressing and more time impressing!

 

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What to eat on a first date!

Lucky you, you’ve got a first date with someone you’ve been talking to from the site and you’ve planned to go for dinner. Chances are, as it’s a first date, you’ll be scrutinising everything – even down to where you go and what your date orders.

So based on our own experiences, we thought we’d have a little fun and put together a list of first date food choices and what they could say about your partner. Fun rather than factual, however, we think there could be some truth in this.
1. Ribs or Spaghetti: They don’t have any hang ups, are willing to take risks and are not afraid of looking silly. Someone who orders ribs or spaghetti on a first date is likely to be a confident person.
2. A margherita pizza: Plain and simple, just like your date perhaps? Ordering the most boring thing on the menu shows that your date could be quite a fussy character and not one for straying from their normal routine.
3. Tapas: A social person who enjoys adventure and likes to try new things.
4. Chicken nuggets and chips: If your date opts for ‘fast food’ or ‘freezer food’ on a first date, it could be an indication that they are quite childish by nature and lazy too. Likewise, if you order this on a first date, you’re unlikely to get a second.
5. French food: They are sophisticated, tasteful and enjoy the finer things in life.
6. Salad: Not only does it scream vain and make your date look high maintenance, it could also be a sign that they’re tight with their money.
7. Pub grub: Laid back, sociable, and fun. A bit of pub grub shows that your date doesn’t take things too seriously.
8. Garlic bread: They don’t kiss on a first date
9. Oysters/Asparagus: They go past first base on a first date.
10. Lobster: They’re paying!

Phew! Now that’s dinner de-coded all that’s left to do is to make sure you don’t any leafy greens stuck in your teeth or pasta sauce smeared around your mouth! We hope that’s given you food for thought for your next dinner date, but remember, it’s just a bit of fun so don’t take it too seriously!

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