As election fever hits, for a bit of fun, we’ve imagined what the dating profiles would look like for party leaders. Fancy a date with Ed?
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As election fever hits, for a bit of fun, we’ve imagined what the dating profiles would look like for party leaders. Fancy a date with Nige?
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As election fever hits, for a bit of fun, we’ve imagined what the dating profiles would look like for party leaders. Fancy a date with Dave?
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Looking for somewhere new to meet other singles in Essex? Give these top 5 places a go!
1. Faces
Known as the most exclusive nightclub in Essex, it certainly won’t disappoint. With its chic ambience and opulent décor, Faces attracts a variety of celebrity clientele, from TV stars to footballers.
You will be spoilt for choice with 6 bars and 2 rooms of music with VIP tables available, so if you’re looking for a sophisticated venue to meet some new people whilst dancing to some of the most popular tunes then head over to Faces for a great night out.
458-462 Cranbrook Road, Gants Hill, Ilford, Essex, IG2 6LE
2. Dance Parties Plus
Set in a number of locations across Essex, Dance Parties Plus organise fantastic party nights for over 30s in stunning venues.
Most parties are held on Friday nights but keep an eye out for the occasional Saturday party if those are more suited to you.
If you like to dance to excellent music in stunning venues and want to meet other singles whilst doing so, then one of these lavish parties is the place to go.
Various locations
3. Essex Wildlife Trust
The Essex Wildlife Trust holds regular Volunteer Work Parties which offer superb opportunities to meet new people whilst helping the local wildlife.
These events are more suited to people who have a bit of extra time on their hands as they generally run on weekdays.
Chafford Gorges Nature Park, Grays, Essex, RM16 6RG
4. Riverside Ice & Leisure Centre
There are a number of activities to take part in at Riverside, including ice skating clubs, swimming clubs and diving clubs, so if you’re looking to meet people and take up a new hobby then look no further.
Riverside also includes a gym and offers a range of fitness classes suitable for all abilities.
Clubs are held on many evenings throughout the week so why not try a few!
Victoria Road, Chelmsford, Essex, CM1 1FG
5. Hike Essex
Enjoy walking and want to meet likeminded people? Hike Essex is an established walking group that organise walks every weekend as well as regular socials and weekends away.
They are part of the Ramblers Association so if you join you can attend any of the events.
Midweek evening walks are also available between spring and autumn, creating something to suit everyone. So put on your walking shoes and join them this weekend!
Various locations
So why not register for free with You’ve Pulled and search for other singles in your area and even check out one of the places above together!
Where are 5 of the best places for a date in Brighton? We’ve compiled a list for you so you can give them a go!
1. Royal Pavilion
Visit the Royal Pavilion and and take a tour around it’s expansive hallways, unbelievable dining halls while viewing the grandest pieces of Art from the 1800’s. Once your tour has finished why not grab a bite to eat at the Royal Pavilion Tea Room and take a seat on the balcony overlooking the beautiful Pavilion Gardens.
2.Brighton Pier
Check out the Brighton Pier and enjoy a bag of Doughnuts or candy floss whilst checking out some of the many rides that it has to offer. If your an extreme thrill seeker then check out some of the roller coasters and brace yourselves for the outstanding views from the tops of the rides, however if rides aren’t your thing then why not get involved in the side stool games and win your date a cuddly toy!
3. Krater Comedy Club at the Komedia
This event only runs from Thursday to Sunday but does offer a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere on which to go on a date. The event invites some of the most talented comedians from around the world to come and perform. Just make sure that you don’t sit in the front row!
4. Brighton Wheel & Sea Life Center
If you are an animal lover why not check out The Sea Life Center and experience one of Brighton’s most popular tourist attractions. If you want to take your dates breathe away then take her on the Brighton Wheel and experience some of the most breathtaking view over the sea and rooftops of Brighton!
5. The Beach
Take your date on a romantic stroll along the promenade and check out some of the wonderful cafes overlooking the sea.Or you could just grab a couple of deck chairs and sit on the beach whilst sipping on a glass of wine, what could be more romantic than that!
How To Create The Right Profile… You wouldn’t know by looking out of your window, but officially, Summer is coming to a close. So there’s no month like September to get that profile up to date and maybe find that special someone to spend those Autumn evenings with. With that in mind, we thought we’d give you a little inside information on Online Buzzwords… what to use, and what to avoid.
So c’mon guys, you’ve got the information, go use it… and use it wisely. Update your profile and who knows, you might just find exactly what you’re looking for.
10 Things Single People Need to Stop Saying!
Ever wondered why you’re single? Yep, we thought so. Know how we know that? It’s because we hear you uttering those same old cliché sayings time and time again. Here at You’ve Pulled we know that the key to being a successful dater is to be happy in the first place. That means ditching any negativity you have towards being single and having the confidence to not only believe that you’re great, but that you deserve to be happy just as much as anyone else.
We’d hate for you to sound cliché so to help you out we’ve put together a list of the top 10 things that single people say! Read on and make sure you put wallowing in single sorrow!
- 1. I’m going to die alone – Stop with that negative attitude right now and start thinking positively. No one wants to date someone who’s always down in the dumps. Plus, you don’t need to die alone… you could always get a cat?
- 2. All the good ones are taken – Are they? That’s news to us. Perhaps you need to sign up to You’ve Pulled and check out the thousands of great singles that are still searching for that someone special.
- 3. What’s wrong with me? – Why so negative? There’s nothing wrong with you at all. That’s why you’ve got such amazing friends and family that love you! You just haven’t met the right person yet.
- 4. I’m just going to stop looking and focus on me – Well we can’t argue with that. Although it’s cliché, there’s nothing wrong with learning to love yourself before someone else can. However, watch out that those barriers don’t go up.
- 5. I’m so over dating! – Come on, how many dates have you been on this year? Probably not enough! Besides, meeting new people never gets boring so embrace it!
- 6. I’m better off alone – There’s nothing wrong with enjoying your own company, but having a ‘I’m better off alone’ attitude is very defeatist and won’t get you very far in the long run.
- When will it be my turn? – Stop feeling sorry for yourself and acting like you’re in some kind of dating queue. You’ll find someone when the time is right!
- 8. Great, another wedding where I’m single! – Great indeed! More time to spend with your friends/family, mingle with new people (maybe even the hot best man or cute maid of honour), and have a good time on the dance floor!
- 9. I’ll be happier when I’m in a relationship – It’s dangerous to think that someone else will make you ‘happy’. So stop thinking like that immediately and concentrate on making yourself happy first!
- 10. I haven’t got time to date anyway! – No one is that busy that they can’t make time for the relationships in their life. Anyway, that’s where online dating comes in. Meet new people and arrange dates on the go, from the comfort of your own home, or at your desk on your lunch break!
If you’re ready to ditch the negativity towards your single status then why not sign up for an account on You’ve Pulled and starting meeting new people now. Alternatively, log in to your account and spread the love by sending a message to someone new today!
It’s that time of the month again where we give you, our members a chance to ask the awkward questions you want the answers to.
Last month we brought you photo tips and advice and prompted you to send us questions about confidence and how to boost it. We were inundated with some really great questions, but unfortunately we can only answer a few per email, meaning we picked the most common questions and brought you what we thought were the best answers. Next month’s topic is Dates, including the do’s and don’ts, what to say, what not to say, etc… so if you’ve got any questions about dates, be it your first, second or maybe even third date, we’re here to offer our advice.
Remember to send your questions to asktheexpert@expertdating.co.uk and we’ll do our best to answer them in next month’s edition.
HOW DO YOU ASK SOMEONE OUT ON A DATE?
Asking someone out on a date is always daunting, and unless there is a clear spark there, is very rarely easy. But there are a couple of simple things to remember which should make it a little easier.
1. Prepare yourself for rejection: No one likes to be told no, but it’s a fact of life and something we have to take in our stride and accept we aren’t going to get what we want. This is no more relevant than when asking someone out on a date. By preparing yourself for the worst, you are already getting over the biggest hurdle and in return, getting over your worries which bring on a lack of confidence and affect performance.
2. Avoid straight forward questions: Unless you’re 100% sure the answer is going to be ‘Yes’ avoid asking outright “will you go out with me” as this often leads to a short and simple “No!”, knocking your confidence and leaving you with nothing else to come back with. Try making it less formal whilst leaving options. “Hey, I’d really like to get together sometime and do something with you”. Not only does this open a conversation of the whats, wheres and whens, but it also reduces the possibilities for the other party to simply knock you back.
3. Know when to give up: It should be pretty clear from the outset as to whether the other party is interested in a date or not. If after following the steps above, and you’ve suggested a couple of dates and you’re still getting short, one-word answers of “Not Free”, “I’m busy that day” and “sorry, I can’t make it”.
It’s now time to cut your losses and give up as each rejection is just going to knock your confidence more and more, making it even harder for the next time as well as making you look more and more desperate. Know when to give up and move on.
Why not log in now, follow these short and simple steps and find someone to take out on a date now.
HOW TO ASK IF SEX IS IMPORTANT?
To some people sex is a big part of an intimate relationship whereas to others, it’s not important in the slightest. Some people find this a hard subject to raise due to sex being looked upon as a taboo matter. However, the best way to approach this is to be straight forward and honest.
There isn’t an easy way to bring it up, nor is it a good idea to speak in code. Be open, be honest and ask. Afterall, if the person is right for you, they will understand and the conversation will flow, if it doesn’t then maybe you’ve not found your perfect match.
WHAT IS AN ACCEPTABLE AGE GAP?
Permitting both parties are within the legal age of consent, there is no rule on age difference, it is simply down to the people involved and whether or not you feel comfortable with the difference in age between the two of you. No matter how comfortable you feel together in the quiet of the home, if you feel uncomfortable outside in public with the other person because of the age difference, then it’s not right for you.
If you both share common interests, and there is a spark there, then there is nothing wrong with an age gap.
Now you have the answers, it’s time to act on them. And don’t forget, there’s nothing to it, it’s simply a case of being confident… try it – it could be the key to your new online dating success.
Next month we’re looking at dates where we’ll cover where to go, what not to do, things to wear, and overall coaching tips.
So email your questions to asktheexpert@expertdating.co.uk and we’ll publish the best ones, along with answers from our very own experts in next month’s email.
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Cliché Dating Advice
Dating comes with a whole bunch of clichéd phrases that we’ve all heard time and time again. Whether you’ve just come out of a relationship, the love interest you’ve been yearning after for longer than you can remember has moved on and settled down, or you’re 30 and still single, you’ll find that there is always someone (usually armed with a bottle of wine and two glasses) there to offer up some wise words of wisdom; so you can dust yourself off and get back on the saddle. Check out our top 5 most common pieces of advice and find out the true meaning behind them.
- “There’s plenty more fish in the sea” – How many times have you heard this one? It’s the classic line that usually gets used just after a break up. It’s usually around the same time that you utter the words ‘yeah but I wanted that fish’.
What it means: Ok, so it might not literally be about fish but the analogy is correct. Just like fish, there’s plenty more eligible singles out there. Just because it didn’t work out with this person, doesn’t mean you won’t find love again.
- “You’ll find them when you stop looking” – The technology of finding someone these days may have advanced but the advice still sends mixed messages. Are they suggesting you’re desperate? Should you cancel your online dating subscription, stop going out and sit at home waiting for your phone to ring? Of course not.
What it means: Simply put, get out there, enjoy life, let go of the pressures of finding someone and just see what happens. It also means you can keep your You’ve Pulled subscription going!
- “Think positive and positive things will happen” – This phrase is probably the most ambiguous of all of the dating clichés out there. So technically, all you have to do is start thinking you’ll get a boyfriend/girlfriend and you’ll get one.
What it means: Positivity breeds positivity. Plus, things have a tendency to fall into place when you’re busy being happy.
- “You’re standards are too high – Are high standards ever a bad thing? Surely it means that you know what you’re looking for in a partner and you’re not willing to settle for anything less.
What it means: Perhaps you can afford to let your barriers down a little and give someone who isn’t usually your type a go. You never know, you may fall in love with someone you weren’t expecting to.
- “You were too good for him/her anyway” – This is a direct quote from anyone who has ever given advice to someone who has just gone through a breakup. It’s all well and good saying that now but why didn’t you tell me this sooner? You mean to say I’ve been wasting my time with some no-hoper for the last 2 years and you’re only telling me now?
What it means: Your friends and family love you. They think you’re fabulous. So while they may have loved your other half while you were dating, now that you’ve been dumped, they happen to think they’re a bit of an idiot for letting you go. It’s a compliment, take it!
We’d love to hear from you if you’ve got any other dating advice that you’ve been given time and time again. Just leave a comment in the box below.
Alternatively, if you’ve had enough of hearing friends and relatives dishing out advice, why not sign up to You’ve Pulled or log in to your account today and find someone to help you put a stop to it!
If your busy schedule does not allow you to have long conversations on the phone with potential dates, then you should try text dating. Text dating is a lot less time-consuming than phone dating, but it can give you the same results if it is done the right way. Here are some tips that can help you text date successfully on your mobile:
Be Different
Many people like to “play it cool” when they are talking to new friends or potential love interests, but it does not work with everybody. Playing it cool means that you are not getting straight to the point, and it can slow down the progress of relationships. Instead of doing what most people are doing, you should try to be different. If you are interested in someone, it is best that you text him or her right away. It is important that you let your potential dates know that you are keen initially, and you can play it cool after their guard is down.
Send Messages on One-for-One Basis
Try not to send more messages than you receive. If you send a message and do not receive a reply after a day or two, do not panic. Everybody has their own lives to live and things to do. The people you send messages to may be busy with work or have other important things to attend to, and they need more time to reply your messages. If you are getting more messages than you are sending out, it is a sign that things are going well.
Avoid Text-Speak
While it is common for people to use short hand when writing text messages, it is best that you use full sentences when you are communicating with your potential romantic interests. It will show that you are sincere, and you want to make sure that they get the full meaning of every message you send to them.
Get to the Point
All the text messages you send should achieve something specific. If you want to arrange a meeting with someone, you should let him or her know your intention, but try to ask in a creative way. If you send too many pointless messages, you will just end up becoming his or her text buddy.
Do Not Rush In
When you ask your potential love interests to go out on a date with you, it is not a good idea to ask them directly. Instead, ask questions that will lead to the invitation. For instance, if you want to have dinner with them, ask them to name their favorite food and suggest visiting a restaurant that serves that kind of food.
Keep Things in Context
Follow the rules and etiquette of text dating, and stay focused on your goal. Every message you send should bring you closer to the realization of that goal. Write messages that are short, fun, and sweet, and do not feel stressed over late replies. As long as your potential dates keep sending messages to you, it means that you are still on their minds, and you still have a chance to win their hearts.