When you’re actively looking for your ideal love match, it can be tricky to know whether to date one person at a time, or to cast your net wide and explore multiple connections simultaneously.
Back in the day, it was considered the norm to meet someone and to take your time dating, so that you could assess how things were naturally developing. The more modern, smarter approach of multi-dating however, gives you the freedom to explore all of your options at once, before you become too invested in any.
On You’ve Pulled – it’s super easy and fun to chat and flirt with friendly guys and girls from all over the country. You can connect with as many people as you wish, and get to know them at your own pace. Should you decide that you want to meet in person, it’s entirely up to you whether you date one, two or a few at the same time!
Multi-dating is more fun
At the start of your exploratory dating phase, there’s really no need to stick to old-fashioned dating traditions and customs. Being able to compare your options, by dating more than one person at a time, makes perfect sense as it’s the smartest way to discover what type of person aligns with your values.
When dating one person at a time, the experience can sometimes seem laborious, and even boring. Date nights with your one and only potential suitor could end up feeling as exciting as a multiple stage job interview, with the exception that this one’s designed solely to evaluate romantic partnership potential. After many weeks of dating the same person you could end up realising that they’re not the ideal candidate after all. You’ll then have to commit to starting the dating process all over again.
Having a strategic plan to date more than one person means that you’re focusing on enjoying the social experience of dating. If you’re not sure if Person A is a great match, you can compare them to Person B or C, or cut your losses and keep your options open.
Multi-dating empowers you to choose what’s right and best for you, and teaches you not to settle for what’s easy, predictable or incompatible.
No more over-investing
Most people tend to put all of their eggs in one basket, when playing the dating game. It’s common practice to be single-target focused, once you’ve clicked with someone who’s taken your fancy. From the moment that a hopeless romantic has agreed to meet on a first date, they’re already investing into a relationship that may never develop or blossom.
Instead of over-investing, and setting yourself up for eventual disappointment or heartache, consider trying multi-dating. When you date more than one person at a time, you’re sampling what’s on offer without making any kind of commitment. You can date out of your comfort zone, and connect with people that you wouldn’t usually assume are your type. Zero emotional investing gives you the ultimate power of choice.
If your dating style is anxious attachment and you tend to fall for someone too deep, too quickly, multiple-dating allows you easily shrug off anyone who turns out to be unsuitable. It additional gives you space to explore relationship variables and to date in a manner that suits your personality, needs/wants and lifestyle.
Keeping your options open during the early stages of dating significantly improves your chances of long-term relationship success.
Be emotionally independent
Until you’re sure that you’ve clicked with a good life partner candidate, it’s a good idea to prioritise yourself. Dating multiple people at the same time ensures that you’re emotionally independent. This attractive quality is super magnetic to potential suitors, so you’ll need to get organised when you have several dating options on the table.
As an emotionally independent person, you’re free to exercise your power of choice and to agree to date whomever you fancy. But you’ll need to master calendar coordination, remember personal details and background information on each of your suitors, and maintain a positive outlook.
Whether you’re checking out potential matches on You’ve Pulled or chatting and flirting with attractive strangers socially, as an emotionally independent person who is focused on their own needs and wants, what happens next is entirely your choice.
You don’t have to make up your mind about anyone you date, straight away. Some suitors will make it easy for you by ‘dropping off’ after the first date or two, while others will give you something to think about. Being honest with yourself and with the people you date, about what you’re looking for, and letting them know that you’re keeping your options open, is the quickest way of finding the One you’re searching for.