Pulling tips

Need help starting a conversation?

So you’ve finally plucked up the courage to take your cyber romance offline and see if you can stand the test of real chemistry. Meeting someone for the first time can seem daunting, but it needn’t be. Read on to find out our top conversation starters which are guaranteed to keep the conversation flowing!

Breaking the ice –Talk about your day, talk about the weather, talk about your journey to meet your date. Although these topics may seem rather mundane they are perfect for breaking the ice. They also give you a great opportunity to suss out those all-important first impressions.

Current Affairs – What’s going on in the news? Are there any TV programmes that you are particularly into? Or what about a bit of celebrity gossip? Everyone has their own opinions on current affairs, popular culture and TV shows so it’s a great starting point and a great stepping stone to lead conversation elsewhere.

Family – Talking about each other’s families is a fairly safe and easy topic. It invites your date into your world and allows you to open up a little more.

Work –What you do, how you got into it, the good the bad. For most people work is a big part of their life so there should be plenty to talk about. Be warned though, if they hate their job you may need to steer the conversation on to something else. Perhaps…

Winning Big – What would you do if you won the lottery? Everyone loves this question because you can really let yourself get carried away and create your dream life; a pretty good insight into one another’s desires.

Films – A person’s taste in films can say a lot about their character. It’s also a great way to see if you have anything in common.

Dream Dinner Party – Ask your date who they’d invite – dead or alive – to their dream dinner party. Another great question which allows you both to get day dreamy and also gives you a good idea of the types of people you are.

Phobias – Finding out about your date’s phobias is a great way to create a bond between the two of you as it shows your vulnerable side. It can also be a great way to triggers some funny anecdotes. Plus, if one of you is scared of spiders and the other doesn’t mind catching them, well then you could be a match made in heaven!

Desert Island – Another open ended question and one that can easily lead you onto other conversations is ‘what three items would you take to a desert island’. It’s a fun way to find out what is important to your date.

People Watch – People watching is great fun and it gives you plenty to talk about. Make up stories about the other people for example, why they might be there or what their story is. The more imaginative the better and the more likely it is that you’ll get your date laughing!

Sounds so easy doesn’t it? Why not put these tips to good use next time you go on a first date and that way, you can spend less time stressing and more time impressing!